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Posted: 7/25/2012 9:30:51 PM
THE IMAGE ABOVE IS A PAID ADVERTISEMENT But I'm not telling them. The most important thing to them is for me to go to church. Above all else, darken the doorway of a church. And to me, thats not why I went at all. And I would rather have them think I did not go than to be praised for something that is so empty to me. Does this seem weird? Wrong? Contradicting myself? |
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Posted: 7/25/2012 9:36:36 PM
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Posted: 7/25/2012 9:41:56 PM
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Originally Posted By SpeechPathJunkie:
I went to church last Sunday. My parents would be thrilled. But I'm not telling them. The most important thing to them is for me to go to church. Above all else, darken the doorway of a church. And to me, thats not why I went at all. And I would rather have them think I did not go than to be praised for something that is so empty to me. Does this seem weird? Wrong? Contradicting myself? Not weird... not wrong... not contradicting. I have felt exactly what you are feeling and still do at times. You know how important this is to your parents, so you don't want them included until you know it's the real thing. I completely understand where you are coming from. My advice is to keep going for what ever reason you decided to go and see what happens. Do this for your own reasons and no one else. You'll know if and when it's time to let them know. This journey is yours and no one elses. Good luck. |
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Posted: 7/25/2012 9:43:11 PM
Originally Posted By glazer1972: So why did you go? I enjoy church. It feel like its just me sitting there with my Heavenly Father. I don't care if it is a small country church or a huge one I went to last Sunday. I have such a busy brain that going to church helps me focus on what's important. I enjoy being around others. Even if I don't talk to anyone. I hope to make some friends though. My life lately has been home-work-home-work. |
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Posted: 7/25/2012 9:44:04 PM
Originally Posted By RevMetric: Originally Posted By SpeechPathJunkie: I went to church last Sunday. My parents would be thrilled. But I'm not telling them. The most important thing to them is for me to go to church. Above all else, darken the doorway of a church. And to me, thats not why I went at all. And I would rather have them think I did not go than to be praised for something that is so empty to me. Does this seem weird? Wrong? Contradicting myself? Not weird... not wrong... not contradicting. I have felt exactly what you are feeling and still do at times. You know how important this is to your parents, so you don't want them included until you know it's the real thing. I completely understand where you are coming from. My advice is to keep going for what ever reason you decided to go and see what happens. Do this for your own reasons and no one else. You'll know if and when it's time to let them know. Good luck. Thanks. My father is a paster so he is taking me not going to church as a personal insult. |
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Posted: 7/25/2012 10:13:39 PM
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Originally Posted By SpeechPathJunkie:
Originally Posted By glazer1972:
So why did you go? I enjoy church. It feel like its just me sitting there with my Heavenly Father. I don't care if it is a small country church or a huge one I went to last Sunday. I have such a busy brain that going to church helps me focus on what's important. I enjoy being around others. Even if I don't talk to anyone. I hope to make some friends though. My life lately has been home-work-home-work. Doesn't sound like its so empty to you like you said in the first post. Keep going. |
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Posted: 7/26/2012 8:32:04 AM
Originally Posted By glazer1972: Originally Posted By SpeechPathJunkie: Originally Posted By glazer1972: So why did you go? I enjoy church. It feel like its just me sitting there with my Heavenly Father. I don't care if it is a small country church or a huge one I went to last Sunday. I have such a busy brain that going to church helps me focus on what's important. I enjoy being around others. Even if I don't talk to anyone. I hope to make some friends though. My life lately has been home-work-home-work. Doesn't sound like its so empty to you like you said in the first post. Keep going. Why I like to go isn't empty. All my parents care about is that I show up somewhere. They care more about the act than the reason behind the act. |
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Posted: 7/26/2012 8:57:18 AM
What would happen if you let them know you were going. Would they just be happy and then drop it, or would they bug you about your church choice and find ways to mess with you?
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Posted: 7/26/2012 9:29:12 AM
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What would happen if you let them know you were going. Would they just be happy and then drop it, or would they bug you about your church choice and find ways to mess with you? They would be happy. But I"m not committing to every Sunday yet since how uncertain everything is back home. I don't want to bring up the fact that I'm going by myself. Amont has been working every Sunday and if he gets a Sunday off, I don't want to pressure him into going with me. I told him I don't expect him to come with me every time he has a Sunday off, but to go with me every once in a while. I'm visiting a Baptist church because that is what I was raised and feel most comfortable since I don't know that much about other churches. But I don't feel like I'm a Baptist. I would go to a non denominational church but those lean toward the crazy side around here. |
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Posted: 7/26/2012 9:39:13 AM
Originally Posted By SpeechPathJunkie:
Originally Posted By BigeasySnow:
What would happen if you let them know you were going. Would they just be happy and then drop it, or would they bug you about your church choice and find ways to mess with you? They would be happy. But I"m not committing to every Sunday yet since how uncertain everything is back home. I don't want to bring up the fact that I'm going by myself. Amont has been working every Sunday and if he gets a Sunday off, I don't want to pressure him into going with me. I told him I don't expect him to come with me every time he has a Sunday off, but to go with me every once in a while. I'm visiting a Baptist church because that is what I was raised and feel most comfortable since I don't know that much about other churches. But I don't feel like I'm a Baptist. I would go to a non denominational church but those lean toward the crazy side around here. I don't know how you make it. I'd go insane living at home. I hate being judged. First dad, then my ex. Moving out and being able to breathe for the first time was an amazing feeling. |
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Posted: 7/26/2012 10:47:57 AM
Originally Posted By SpeechPathJunkie:
Originally Posted By BigeasySnow:
What would happen if you let them know you were going. Would they just be happy and then drop it, or would they bug you about your church choice and find ways to mess with you? They would be happy. But I"m not committing to every Sunday yet since how uncertain everything is back home. I don't want to bring up the fact that I'm going by myself. Amont has been working every Sunday and if he gets a Sunday off, I don't want to pressure him into going with me. I told him I don't expect him to come with me every time he has a Sunday off, but to go with me every once in a while. I'm visiting a Baptist church because that is what I was raised and feel most comfortable since I don't know that much about other churches. But I don't feel like I'm a Baptist. I would go to a non denominational church but those lean toward the crazy side around here. Why do you think you don't feel like a Baptist? |
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Posted: 7/26/2012 10:49:25 AM
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Originally Posted By BigeasySnow:
Originally Posted By SpeechPathJunkie:
Originally Posted By BigeasySnow:
What would happen if you let them know you were going. Would they just be happy and then drop it, or would they bug you about your church choice and find ways to mess with you? They would be happy. But I"m not committing to every Sunday yet since how uncertain everything is back home. I don't want to bring up the fact that I'm going by myself. Amont has been working every Sunday and if he gets a Sunday off, I don't want to pressure him into going with me. I told him I don't expect him to come with me every time he has a Sunday off, but to go with me every once in a while. I'm visiting a Baptist church because that is what I was raised and feel most comfortable since I don't know that much about other churches. But I don't feel like I'm a Baptist. I would go to a non denominational church but those lean toward the crazy side around here. I don't know how you make it. I'd go insane living at home. I hate being judged. First dad, then my ex. Moving out and being able to breathe for the first time was an amazing feeling. Learning how to be happy and not having to make anyone else happy is a great feeling. We're living with his parents right now so its not my folks. They aren't so bad. They tend to leave us alone. We see them at supper and that's it. I'm gonna get our own place around the end of Feb. So I'll be on my own from then till sometime in May when he gets back. Having our own place again will be nice. |
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Posted: 7/28/2012 11:27:31 AM
Originally Posted By SpeechPathJunkie:
Originally Posted By BigeasySnow:
What would happen if you let them know you were going. Would they just be happy and then drop it, or would they bug you about your church choice and find ways to mess with you? They would be happy. But I"m not committing to every Sunday yet since how uncertain everything is back home. I don't want to bring up the fact that I'm going by myself. Amont has been working every Sunday and if he gets a Sunday off, I don't want to pressure him into going with me. I told him I don't expect him to come with me every time he has a Sunday off, but to go with me every once in a while. I'm visiting a Baptist church because that is what I was raised and feel most comfortable since I don't know that much about other churches. But I don't feel like I'm a Baptist. I would go to a non denominational church but those lean toward the crazy side around here. I see you're in the south. I don't know if this would help you, but I have friends/relatives who are different flavors of Baptist besides "Southern Baptist." American Baptist is one. You might also try the Methodists or Presbyterians. It seems there are lots of congregations that fall under the label of "non-denom." Perhaps some asking around among friends/coworkers might turn up something that doesn't tend towards crazy. I hope you can find a congregation that fits. It can make all the different, as I know from personal experience. I can most definitely sympathize with your wanting to keep your journey back to the church from your parents. |
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Posted: 7/29/2012 4:30:05 PM
Originally Posted By SpeechPathJunkie:
Originally Posted By glazer1972:
So why did you go? I enjoy church. It feel like its just me sitting there with my Heavenly Father. I don't care if it is a small country church or a huge one I went to last Sunday. I have such a busy brain that going to church helps me focus on what's important. I enjoy being around others. Even if I don't talk to anyone. I hope to make some friends though. My life lately has been home-work-home-work. Story by Bishop Kallistos Ware Once upon a time there was an old man in the village who used to go into the church each day and remained there for a long time. His friends said to him, “What are you doing all that time in church?”
And he said, “I’m praying.” “Praying?” they said. “You must have a great many things to ask God for.” He replied, with some warmth, “I’m not asking God for anything.” “What are you doing then?” they said. And he replied, “I just sit and look at God and God sits and looks at me.” |
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Posted: 7/29/2012 6:17:37 PM
Originally Posted By BadCompany: Originally Posted By SpeechPathJunkie: Originally Posted By glazer1972: So why did you go? I enjoy church. It feel like its just me sitting there with my Heavenly Father. I don't care if it is a small country church or a huge one I went to last Sunday. I have such a busy brain that going to church helps me focus on what's important. I enjoy being around others. Even if I don't talk to anyone. I hope to make some friends though. My life lately has been home-work-home-work. Story by Bishop Kallistos Ware Once upon a time there was an old man in the village who used to go into the church each day and remained there for a long time. His friends said to him, "What are you doing all that time in church?” And he said, "I’m praying.” "Praying?” they said. "You must have a great many things to ask God for.” He replied, with some warmth, "I’m not asking God for anything.” "What are you doing then?” they said. And he replied, "I just sit and look at God and God sits and looks at me.”  I like that. Thank you |
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