Hi Guys....
Being this is a SHTF forum, I don't think this is too far off the beaten path to be appropriate for SF..... I don't see any zombie apocalypse coming. No news of total societal collapse yet. No major floods, or blizzards or earthquakes here right now. But I'm pretty sure we are all gonna die some day.
Two weeks ago Dad died. He was 73. He had his first heart attack 22 years ago, and had 5 more since. Ya.. He was a tough old bird. I had many second chances, and had an opportunity to ensure I said everything I wanted to say before he went. No regrets. Fortunately, I went on a fishing trip with him two weeks earlier. The last time I saw him alive was when I hugged him at the end of the fishing trip. It doesnt get better than that..
But here's the rub.... Dad did a "DIY" home will. His heart was in the right place. But in an effort to save $300, he skipped a lawyer and did it on his own. And any half ways decent lawyer would have poked all kinds of holes in his DIY will, and recommended something in the same format that all the businesses and banks and everyone else uses. The end result is this: His DIY will has made and will continue to make my life a living hell for months to come. Better yet, since he lived in Ontario, and I'm in New York State, I simply CANNOT get some things done without going through MASSIVE pain in the ass administrative problems. Example: I'm going to be required to dig into my own pocket, and post a bond in the amount of DOUBLE his estate to obtain a letter of administration so I can deal with some of his stuff. Again, a lawyer would have known this, and set things up to avoid this bullshit.
Dad did not leave much behind. A car, boat and RV, a few personal possessions of more sentimental value than actual cash value. And a few small investments. In some cases, there is $1,500.00 tied up here. $2,000 there. It may actually be more cost effective to simply walk away from some of those, as one account in particular will likely cost MORE than the $1500 to recoup. Dad saved $300. But its sort of like tossing fifty dollar bills out the window in order to save a fiver.
This isn't my first rodeo. I've done this shit before. I know no one wants to consider their own mortality. But trust me on this: $300-400 spent on a will and the other assorted paperwork is a far better used of your money than yet another case of ammo.
You NEED a will. But dieing is easy, to be honest. And I guarantee that you will die someday. Even MORE important are a Power of Attorney of some form. Imagine you do have a million in assets. You are incapacitated. You have the assets to pay for your hospital bills, to pay for the taxes on your home, to keep your bills current. However, since you are incapacitated, you cannot write the checks Newsflash: You aren't actually dead yet, so the Will doesnt matter. Those assets are more or less locked up, unobtainable, to either you recover or you die. Who is going to scrape up an additional $100,000 for your medical bills? Who is going to foot the bill for your home's tax bills? Or do they let the county/state "foreclose" on the home for tax default? Do they just let the bank foreclose because they can't pay their mortgage AND yours too?
You need a will. And a Power of Attorney that remains or comes into effect upon your incapacitation. And hopefully some form of living will/medical proxy/whatever the hell your state calls it. Then do them a favor: Write down all the bank accounts, investments, IRA's, pensions, insurance policies,and everything else pertinent and leave it with the wills/POA. And DONT lock them in a safe deposit box. And if you really want to make it easy for the spouse and your kids, consider jotting down a few wishes. Its easier when family "knows" what you wanted. Dad left me a list of names and phone numbers: Call these friends, these are the people I was close to and would want them to know. I was close to Dad. I didn't even know who some of these people were, let alone their numbers...
Sorry for nagging. But all of this is ten times harder than it needs to be. Dad "saved" $300. But its pretty much going to cost thousands as a result. That's not a big issue. The real issue is this will all be several orders of magnitude more work and stress than it needs to be...
Just get the correct paperwork for your state. Please
Fro