how to convince the wife.....

My wife thinks I should only be alowed to buy one gun a year..... and she wont let me get another AR. I only have two ar's right now and I want at least two more. AR-10 and a nice 20 inch 556. Anybody have problems with their wifes? And how do I convice her to let me get more? I tried getting her into ARs but she just likes handguns :(

Ask her why just one gun a year? Does that mean you could buy one $500 gun OR one $3000 gun? I gotta admit, I broke mine in early, I bought 3 new guns in the first summer we dated. It worked like a charm, now if I only buy 3 guns in a whole year, she thinks I'm being more conservative

This topic is actually something that I think is unfair to men. I'm very frugal with my money, I hate spending it on clothes and food and expendable commodities (you know, the type of thing that is gone after you use it). If a girl feels the need to blow cash on purses, shoes, accessories, or whatever, we should be able to spend ours on whatever too! Tell her one purse a year!

I'd suggest:

(1) Get a new and like-minded wife! My present wife loves guns and shooting, unlike my previous wife. Plus, she's a blonde goddess that is a lot younger and sexier than the ex.

(2) Buy your present wife a lightweight AR for her birthday and send her to an AR shooting class for women. Then maybe she'll understand the multi-AR rational.

(3) Explain that in light of the Dems continuing destruction of the US economy, AR's are better investments than just about anything. (ie, It's not just another AR, it's an INVESTMENT that will increase in value as the dollar falls!)

You shouldn't have started this thread, I think you're gonna get flamed

In before thread move

This.

Also, sell her that way you can afford more guns.

If you are working for minimum wage and have 8 kids she has a point. If you have no kids and are a brain surgeon then just ignore her and buy whatever you want. Getting marital advice here is a pretty bad idea from the number of scary loners and divorced guys here

ask for your balls back

or

get seperate checking accounts and a safe that she doesn't know the combination to

or

eject

ROFL.

Concur

ETA:

I buy and flip stuff all the time, she rarely even bats an eye anymore. You could always do what a buddy of mine did at a show one time though, got home and told his wife he'd won the door prize. That's a one-time only excuse though..

I'll pretty much echo what aimless said. It all depends on your circumstances. Like most arfcom posts, you didnt give us sufficient info to give good advice.

because of that, i'll tell you to jizz in her cherios and buy whatever the hell you want. didn't realize this wasn't GD. sorry

ETA: also, what's up with your screenname? you couldn't put an '&' sign in there or did your springfield and kimber bang one out in the safe and now you have a 1911XDm

Having an actual budget fixes this. If you know you have 5 grand this year to spend on guns, ammo, reloading gear, match fees/travel...then she can't get mad if you stick to the budget.

Not having a budget where the two of you have mutually determined your priorities can lead to conflict.

nobodys said it yet?!

ha She must be a Democrat.....

I predict anal seepage will be your biggest problem in this thread and later in your marriage.

IBTM

Tell her she can only buy one purse every year then

Haha thats funny! its just two seprate guns I love and I just put them together.

I'm at 10 guns this year. Probably around $10-$12k. My wife asked me nicely to "slow down". Probably not the worst idea in the world. I think I'll keep mine.

I hid guns and other toys from my wife for over 10 years.
We had little games like her finding a S&W .357 and hiding it from me for a year.
Take it from a divorced guy gone scary loner,don't lie about money.

My wife hides the fancy expensive yogurt from me so I don't "eat her half" if only I could figure how to get it out of her break room at work without being spotted.

well she likes guns but she just thinks its a wast of money. We dont have any kids yet and she wants me to start saving for when we do.

How bout trying to get her into the shooting sports?
Worked with my sammich maker, only problem is now she has nicer firearms than I do.

Same as the highlighted. Mine is competitive to what I buy she has to get also but somehow ends up with more or nicer firearms. I cannot keep up lol.

OP, have you tried getting her a very lightweight AR?

Do you have a fair amount of disposable income or are you up to your eyeballs in debt? Do you have a budget? Do you have separate checking accounts?

The only thing I can recommend is to sit down and talk it out like adults. IMO, people who lie and hide purchases are destined for divorce, as are a couple where one tries to control the other's (reasonable) spending on hobbies.

Did you say she won't LET you?

As stated previously, if you're in debt up to your eyeballs maybe you should listen to her. If your finances are in order and you don't blow a ton of money on other hobbies, sit down and have a talk with her. No matter what some of the guys here will say, a marriage is give and take. If you need to justify it, just state the fact that some guys buy $25000 Harley motorcycles...but you just want to buy a few guns a year. Some of us were lucky and broke our spouses in early. By the time I married my wife she has already grown used to the fact that I buy 3-5 guns/year if the money is there. Last year I hadn't bought a gun in over 10 months and she asked why. I was busy with work and hadn't even thought about it...so I bought a few suppressors and built an SBR recently. In my opinion it's better to come to a common understanding then sneak behind her back and buy stuff that she's going to find out about sooner or later.

CMS

My first wife was like that....................





Second one was read the riot act before we got married.

Guns
Jeeps
Hunting

Don't like it, GTFO now.

But I also told her that as long as the bills are paid she can do what she wants with her money.

Going on 10.5 years together now.

I have a problem with my wide and ARs.. After trying mine, she wants one of her own.

Freudian slip?

Well I have a lightweight AR. delton upper plumcrazy lower. She just does not like shooting it.

my wife told me if I got a second job, I could use all of that money to buy gun stuff. You see, she never in a million years expected me to get a second job. Guess who was working a second job two months after she said this? She quickly became jealous because this job makes better money than my real job, and takes only 2.5 hours every Monday and Tuesday night for a total of 18 weeks out of every year! Since I'm such a nice guy (she happens to be alright too), I kick her down with half my earnings. I don't get every damn thing I would like, but I really can't complain.

This marriage stuff appears to be all about compromise. It helps that she knows I'm obsessed with all things firearm-related!

Unless you're in debt or have other obligations, reassert your dominance and carry on.

She is your wife, not your mother. Unless you are putting you and the wife in the poorhouse by buying up guns, she needs to relax. On the other hand if you are barely scraping by you need to prioritize, family before guns.

I agree at this rate guns are a far better investment than a savings account. if Obama gets reelected he will probably create an assault weapons ban meaning those extra ARs going to a be worth about 4x what they are now. At this point I don't think the GOP has any one that can beat him sadly so his reelection is inevitable.

You really should have set some boundaries and talked this stuff out pre-marriage just saying, but since you are here now, and probably don't want to get rid of here, new rule for her you will no longer bitch about her accessorizing, buying shoes, or going to the beauty salons at a whopping $100 a pop, if she no longer complains about your spending money purchasing guns as long as they don't put your family in the poor house, or you a buying guns instead of necessities.

Rule 3 don't come here for marriage advice, many of us are divorced or single, and there is probably a reason for that

My wife and I agreed to a spending halt so that we can work on paying our house off, Its the only debt we have. We both get an allowance to spend it on what ever we want. But once its gone we have to wait for the refill. Its going to be a LONG 3-4 years without buying many guns, but once its paid off then that will free up class III cash


Work on a agreed budget/allowance that works for both of you.

My wife is not the biggest fan of guns. She grew up with a dad who was careless with his guns, left them lying around, taught her to shoot them in a bad way (Here, hold this, point, pull trigger NOW or else.)). The best way to work through this issue with your spouse, or any other issue, is communication. If the money is there to spend after responsible savings, bills, etc. then it should be spent equally between the two of you as you guys see fit. My wife now after a few years understands my hobby is more expensive than her nails and purses, but it's just as important to me as her fashion is to her. I'm assuming you married someone reasonable, so just talk to her about it and explain to her how much you enjoy your hobby like she enjoys hers.

If that doesn't work.. you have guns for a reason.. ;P J/k. But if someone won't compromise on an important matter to the other party, perhaps the relationship isn't the best idea for the two of you. It's not about the guns, it's about the communication and compromise issue.

My wife doesn't "allow" me to do anything. I'd kick her to the curb if she did. I'm a big boy, I have never and will never ask my wife for permission to do anything.

If you want to buy two guns then buy two guns. If you want to buy six, then buy six. As long as you're a responsible adult then who cares.

My wife bought me a gun store !!!

Which one?

I always ask for forgiveness not permission...

tell her to make you another sammich and you'll do what you damn well please.....

Try getting the money back out of the purses, shoes, and accessories. Now, how much money can you get back for the gun stuff you buy?

I just got married. The dilemma of spending "our" money on my personal toys was a huge issue for me once we got married.

I think I found a solution and we are implementing it. I have my own savings and checking accounts, she has her own savings and checking accounts, and we have a joint savings and checking account. She and I agreed to a dollar figure that we would each keep out of our checks each week as our personal play money. Any expense or purchase that is beneficial to the both of us comes from the joint account as well as any household bills. However, we each have money to play with. I just have to save a little longer than I used to for those larger toy purchases.

Pickup a few handguns, at least one just for her. Come see us in three months and see if you do any better getting her support.

nice

please follow this advice.

we need more gun friendly women on the market.

Is your wife anti gun liberal?

1) Take your balls back.

or

2) Eject

Tell her she can only have one purse or pair of shoes a year.


When our budget allows, my wife has no problem with me getting firearms or firearm related equipment and/or gear.

She owns a pink 10/22 and P22Q now and claims my Glock 19 and SIlencerCo Sparrow are hers. That's an excuse for me to get another Sparrow and Glock, LOL.

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