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5/2/2012 12:10:37 PM
My fiance is afraid of guns for no reason. Any ideas to help her get into it
5/2/2012 12:11:54 PM
Find another one...
5/2/2012 12:11:56 PM
Take her to the range.
5/2/2012 12:12:34 PM
A 10/22, and some proper instruction, will do wonders.
5/2/2012 12:12:37 PM
Introduce her to them gently. Get her to the range. Get her a gun of her own.
Getting my wife to talk to other females that like guns helped.
But if she cant get over the fear, EJECT!
Getting my wife to talk to other females that like guns helped.
But if she cant get over the fear, EJECT!
5/2/2012 12:12:47 PM
Don't push it on her, that will just make her pull back more. Just spend time educating her first, explaining away all the irrational anti-gun arguments. It has to make sense before she'll warm up to the idea.
5/2/2012 12:13:23 PM
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5/2/2012 12:13:26 PM
Give her a .22lr pistol and let her dump a mag like a maniac at something.
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5/2/2012 12:13:33 PM
Chain her up and start with allowing her to see the gun, you don't want it to surprise her.
Start small, like a pellet gun then work your way up to a .22, then a shotgun. After awhile she'll get used to it.
Start small, like a pellet gun then work your way up to a .22, then a shotgun. After awhile she'll get used to it.
5/2/2012 12:13:34 PM
Originally Posted By goldtop:
A 10/22, and some proper instruction, will do wonders.
A 10/22, and some proper instruction, will do wonders.
Just picked up a M&P 15-22 for the wife to play with to get her into the AR world.
5/2/2012 12:13:43 PM
You must get this cleared up before you get married to her.
5/2/2012 12:13:55 PM
Originally Posted By dryroasted:
Take her to the range.
Take her to the range.
If this does not work, then first post wins again.
5/2/2012 12:14:56 PM
Buy a pink .22 rifle and have her shoot reactive targets like bottles of water.
5/2/2012 12:15:23 PM
Just out of curiosity, did she vote for Obama?
5/2/2012 12:15:43 PM
I say this with all caution- youd better nip that in the bud before you tie the knot, or at least make it clear that you have no intentions of changing your gun ownership and they will be kept in the house in a state of readyness. This is not an argument that you want to have post-numptials. If she cant deal with it and if you arent willing to cave in and get rid of your weapons it could get messy.
There is a reason, gently get her to bring it out on the open but dont push. Some people will never get over that irrational fear and thats when you just have to agree to disagree and that neither party will complain or influence the others decision. My wife wasnt afraid of guns but she didnt know squat about them. After some after dinner training every so often shes quite proficient and has her CCW. She can outshoot me with my own 1911.
Not everyone has a want or need to shoot or be around firearms- you too have to learn to respect that. If she shows interest take it slow and dont star throwing alot of technical stuff at her. Skip all the pink crap. If she never gets into them what are you going to do with a pink gun, resell it for a loss? Start her out with a .22 and make it FUN. You cant convince her that guns are safe or "not scary", she has to decide that for herself. If you make them fun and safe she will too...hopefully.
There is a reason, gently get her to bring it out on the open but dont push. Some people will never get over that irrational fear and thats when you just have to agree to disagree and that neither party will complain or influence the others decision. My wife wasnt afraid of guns but she didnt know squat about them. After some after dinner training every so often shes quite proficient and has her CCW. She can outshoot me with my own 1911.
Not everyone has a want or need to shoot or be around firearms- you too have to learn to respect that. If she shows interest take it slow and dont star throwing alot of technical stuff at her. Skip all the pink crap. If she never gets into them what are you going to do with a pink gun, resell it for a loss? Start her out with a .22 and make it FUN. You cant convince her that guns are safe or "not scary", she has to decide that for herself. If you make them fun and safe she will too...hopefully.
5/2/2012 12:15:51 PM
If she doesn't like guns or is afraid of them, don't try to force her to like them or shoot them. It'll just be your hobby. Hopefully she won't pressure you to give up firearms.
5/2/2012 12:16:38 PM
So what happens if she tells you it's her or them?
Which is your choice?
Which is your choice?
5/2/2012 12:16:57 PM
Sorry..
5/2/2012 12:17:53 PM
Need a photo before I can make a recommendation.
5/2/2012 12:18:16 PM
If you show her your gun before you're married, be careful not to have any negligent discharges. 
5/2/2012 12:18:18 PM
Originally Posted By CletusGuiness:
My fiance is afraid of guns for no reason. Any ideas to help her get into it
My fiance is afraid of guns for no reason. Any ideas to help her get into it
take her shooting. .22's only.
If that doesn't work eject because it'll be a bumpy relationship if you want to keep your guns.
5/2/2012 12:18:20 PM
Either she lets you have your hobbies, or you let her have the front door.
I've lived with those types, and it's misery. Don't or you will regret it.
I've lived with those types, and it's misery. Don't or you will regret it.
5/2/2012 12:20:16 PM
5/2/2012 12:20:19 PM
she has no problems with guns, just afraid to shoot.
5/2/2012 12:21:08 PM
How did she become your fiancee if she had this disorder?
Does she really like horses?
Does she really like horses?
5/2/2012 12:21:28 PM
Originally Posted By CletusGuiness:
she has no problems with guns, just afraid to shoot.
she has no problems with guns, just afraid to shoot.
Get the Cornered Cat book for her. Or have her read the website.
5/2/2012 12:21:47 PM
5/2/2012 12:22:21 PM
Originally Posted By CletusGuiness:
she has no problems with guns, just afraid to shoot.
she has no problems with guns, just afraid to shoot.
Then start her out with .22LR like others have said when she is ready.
Do you have any other female relatives that you can take with you to the range with her?
5/2/2012 12:22:37 PM
Double up on her ear protection, muffs and plugs. Have her shoot something without much recoil, and something relatively quiet. No muzzle brakes, no magnums. The concussion can be as scary as the recoil to a novice.
5/2/2012 12:22:45 PM
Originally Posted By ex_dsmr:
I say this with all caution- youd better nip that in the bud before you tie the knot, or at least make it clear that you have no intentions of changing your gun ownership and they will be kept in the house in a state of readyness. This is not an argument that you want to have post-numptials. If she cant deal with it and if you arent willing to cave in and get rid of your weapons it could get messy.
There is a reason, gently get her to bring it out on the open but dont push. Some people will never get over that irrational fear and thats when you just have to agree to disagree and that neither party will complain or influence the others decision. My wife wasnt afraid of guns but she didnt know squat about them. After some after dinner training every so often shes quite proficient and has her CCW. She can outshoot me with my own 1911.
Not everyone has a want or need to shoot or be around firearms- you too have to learn to respect that. If she shows interest take it slow and dont star throwing alot of technical stuff at her. Skip all the pink crap. If she never gets into them what are you going to do with a pink gun, resell it for a loss? Start her out with a .22 and make it FUN. You cant convince her that guns are safe or "not scary", she has to decide that for herself. If you make them fun and safe she will too...hopefully.
I say this with all caution- youd better nip that in the bud before you tie the knot, or at least make it clear that you have no intentions of changing your gun ownership and they will be kept in the house in a state of readyness. This is not an argument that you want to have post-numptials. If she cant deal with it and if you arent willing to cave in and get rid of your weapons it could get messy.
There is a reason, gently get her to bring it out on the open but dont push. Some people will never get over that irrational fear and thats when you just have to agree to disagree and that neither party will complain or influence the others decision. My wife wasnt afraid of guns but she didnt know squat about them. After some after dinner training every so often shes quite proficient and has her CCW. She can outshoot me with my own 1911.
Not everyone has a want or need to shoot or be around firearms- you too have to learn to respect that. If she shows interest take it slow and dont star throwing alot of technical stuff at her. Skip all the pink crap. If she never gets into them what are you going to do with a pink gun, resell it for a loss? Start her out with a .22 and make it FUN. You cant convince her that guns are safe or "not scary", she has to decide that for herself. If you make them fun and safe she will too...hopefully.
Thanks, I agree. Will try.
5/2/2012 12:23:22 PM
Buy all the guns you want before you marry her
5/2/2012 12:24:06 PM
Baby steps. 
and where are the pics?
and where are the pics?
5/2/2012 12:24:09 PM
So what? My wife hates guns, too. Shot once (as in, one round) and hated it.
I can buy, I can shoot. She just wants no part of it. Oh well.
I can buy, I can shoot. She just wants no part of it. Oh well.
5/2/2012 12:24:42 PM
Originally Posted By fla556guy:
Either she lets you have your hobbies, or you let her have the front door.
I've lived with those types, and it's misery. Don't or you will regret it.
Either she lets you have your hobbies, or you let her have the front door.
I've lived with those types, and it's misery. Don't or you will regret it.
Like above poster and others have said....if you don't want to give up your guns you better get her involved in getting to know them better. The best way to show someone that guns aren't evil is to teach them how to shoot. Also, think about this....what if she still feels this way after you have kids......think how much worse she will be when you have kids in the house...you won't even be able to have a pellet gun much less an AR.
ETA - saw your last post, just teach her how to shoot and you will be fine.....
5/2/2012 12:24:56 PM
Leave her a gun loaded with blanks and then have one of your buddies dress up like a scumbag thief and have him try to rape her.
Hilarity will then ensue.
Hilarity will then ensue.
5/2/2012 12:25:23 PM
Give her time to come around. My better half was deathly afraid of guns when we were first married. She came around. Yeah. It took 36 years, but, she came around!!
5/2/2012 12:25:27 PM
Originally Posted By WinstonSmith:
Double up on her ear protection, muffs and plugs. Have her shoot something without much recoil, and something relatively quiet. No muzzle brakes, no magnums. The concussion can be as scary as the recoil to a novice.
Double up on her ear protection, muffs and plugs. Have her shoot something without much recoil, and something relatively quiet. No muzzle brakes, no magnums. The concussion can be as scary as the recoil to a novice.
Avoid public ranges during busy hours as well. Having her shoot a .22 with a lot of hearing protection isn't going to help too much when the guy 2 lanes down is firing his 357.
5/2/2012 12:25:40 PM
Originally Posted By JustJim:
So what? My wife hates guns, too. Shot once (as in, one round) and hated it.
I can buy, I can shoot. She just wants no part of it. Oh well.
So what? My wife hates guns, too. Shot once (as in, one round) and hated it.
I can buy, I can shoot. She just wants no part of it. Oh well.
Oh well?
Say she is home alone. Someone kicks in the back door. She going to nag them to death?
I dont get this mentality. If you are living in a house with guns, you better know how to use them.
5/2/2012 12:26:15 PM
Originally Posted By Snips:
Avoid public ranges during busy hours as well. Having her shoot a .22 with a lot of hearing protection isn't going to help too much when the guy 2 lanes down is firing his 357.
Originally Posted By WinstonSmith:
Double up on her ear protection, muffs and plugs. Have her shoot something without much recoil, and something relatively quiet. No muzzle brakes, no magnums. The concussion can be as scary as the recoil to a novice.
Double up on her ear protection, muffs and plugs. Have her shoot something without much recoil, and something relatively quiet. No muzzle brakes, no magnums. The concussion can be as scary as the recoil to a novice.
Avoid public ranges during busy hours as well. Having her shoot a .22 with a lot of hearing protection isn't going to help too much when the guy 2 lanes down is firing his 357.
Avoid indoor ranges entirely. They always seem a lot louder to me.
5/2/2012 12:27:46 PM
Originally Posted By CletusGuiness:
she has no problems with guns, just afraid to shoot.
she has no problems with guns, just afraid to shoot.
Oh, that's a different story. Then just start out small, a .22 pistol or rifle. Let her move up when she feels like she's ready, not when you do.
5/2/2012 12:27:56 PM
Was there something in her history that created this view/fear? Was someone injured or anything like that?
5/2/2012 12:29:48 PM
I'm not seeing any pics...
5/2/2012 12:30:30 PM
My GF was like that too, like the other guys said take her eventually and shoot only .22.
By the way, now she thinks 5 56 is too puny and wants to shoot some 7.62.
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By the way, now she thinks 5 56 is too puny and wants to shoot some 7.62.
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5/2/2012 12:31:51 PM
I think its the fear of hurting herself. I am working with her on the basics of safe shooting. she doesnt mind the .22 pistol
5/2/2012 12:32:26 PM
Originally Posted By CletusGuiness:
she has no problems with guns, just afraid to shoot.
she has no problems with guns, just afraid to shoot.
Then let it be your hobby. Doesn't need to be hers.
My wife isn't super wild about them; her dad shot himself when she was a teenager. Rationally she understands it wasn't the gun's fault and he would have found a way to end his life without it. I can't blame her for being uneasy since her first personal experience is that memory. However, she knows that it is one of my favorite hobbies and it was part of agreeing to marry me. She doesn't give me a hard time about it, so I do my best to keep it low-key. I don't have my shit strewn around the house where it's in her face all the time and whatever I'm not carrying, tinkering with, or cleaning stays locked up. Respect is one of those important fundamentals.
If she expresses interest, encourage her. Don't pressure her or crawl up her ass about it. As long as she's not 100% against you owning and shooting them, you'll be fine.
5/2/2012 12:33:58 PM
There is nothing you can do if she's made it this far in life without one.
5/2/2012 12:34:30 PM
Originally Posted By Findsman:
Then let it be your hobby. Doesn't need to be hers.
My wife isn't super wild about them; her dad shot himself when she was a teenager. Rationally she understands it wasn't the gun's fault and he would have found a way to end his life without it. I can't blame her for being uneasy since her first personal experience is that memory. However, she knows that it is one of my favorite hobbies and it was part of agreeing to marry me. She doesn't give me a hard time about it, so I do my best to keep it low-key. I don't have my shit strewn around the house where it's in her face all the time and whatever I'm not carrying, tinkering with, or cleaning stays locked up. Respect is one of those important fundamentals.
If she expresses interest, encourage her. Don't pressure her or crawl up her ass about it. As long as she's not 100% against you owning and shooting them, you'll be fine.
Originally Posted By CletusGuiness:
she has no problems with guns, just afraid to shoot.
she has no problems with guns, just afraid to shoot.
Then let it be your hobby. Doesn't need to be hers.
My wife isn't super wild about them; her dad shot himself when she was a teenager. Rationally she understands it wasn't the gun's fault and he would have found a way to end his life without it. I can't blame her for being uneasy since her first personal experience is that memory. However, she knows that it is one of my favorite hobbies and it was part of agreeing to marry me. She doesn't give me a hard time about it, so I do my best to keep it low-key. I don't have my shit strewn around the house where it's in her face all the time and whatever I'm not carrying, tinkering with, or cleaning stays locked up. Respect is one of those important fundamentals.
If she expresses interest, encourage her. Don't pressure her or crawl up her ass about it. As long as she's not 100% against you owning and shooting them, you'll be fine.
Thanks, I appreciate the help
5/2/2012 12:37:09 PM
future EX wife
just eject now and save yourself some heartache
just eject now and save yourself some heartache
5/2/2012 12:37:26 PM
Past wife candidate afraid of guns
There ya go - new topic, free of charge
There ya go - new topic, free of charge
5/2/2012 12:39:26 PM
Originally Posted By xxspudxx:
Introduce her to them gently. Get her to the range. Get her a gun of her own.
Getting my wife to talk to other females that like guns helped.
But if she cant get over the fear, EJECT!
Introduce her to them gently. Get her to the range. Get her a gun of her own.
Getting my wife to talk to other females that like guns helped.
But if she cant get over the fear, EJECT!
This should have been the first post.
An irrational fear of any inanimate object, especially once you understand them and how they work, is indicative of a mental defect that may be seen in other decision making processes.
Like filing a false TRO against you, getting you kicked out of your own house, and divorcing you for half of everything you have, while fucking you up the ass for "Vaginamoney" payments.
