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How to politely yet with certainty let the Mormons know please don't come back?
1/17/2012 9:04:56 PM
I am a baptized Mormon. I did this at age 9, and continued to the Aaronic priesthood, have not been an active member for over a quarter century. Also, politely and respectfully stated, I do not subscribe to the doctrine. It is very important in the church to bring inactive members back, and I am again on the list. A few years ago some neighbors, I actually live right by a Temple, visited me a few times on this. I was quite polite un asking them to back away, and to let the church know I was not interested. It has been honored until yesterday when I was visited by FOUR Missionaries, all of course very polite. They knew my name, so I know it's a church related attempt to get me back. I just want no contact. How may I best do this? Maybe a personal visit to the Temple? Don't wanna upset or disrespect a soul. But I DO want my wishes to be respected. Board Mormons, any suggestions? Thank you.
1/17/2012 9:27:31 PM
Make an appointment to speak directly with the bishop of the local temple himself. Or speak to him directly on the phone,
and make your wishes extremely clear but of course in a polite and respectful manner.
I'm sure you will then be left alone.
CJ
and make your wishes extremely clear but of course in a polite and respectful manner.
I'm sure you will then be left alone.
CJ
1/17/2012 9:31:02 PM
Reply edited –– reread the OP more carefully and note which forum this is in. HS
1/17/2012 9:40:06 PM
Slip into church, grab a tithing envelope and put a note in there saying the following. PLEASE REMOVE ME FROM YOUR RECORDS. Send a second copy of that exact note to 50 E North Temple, SLC, UT 84150. Attn Member Records. Make sure you have all your info included and have the Bishop respond to validate that has been done.
Best of luck to you.
Best of luck to you.
1/17/2012 9:47:04 PM
I am not LDS, but most of the people that I know are. A friend of mine was particularly annoying in trying to get me to go to church. I finnaly put it this way.
"I will go to your church, when you split a 6pack of beer with me." I was serious. He hasn't asked since. He was disrespecting me by badgering me about it. I don't think I disrespected him with the suggestion.
"I will go to your church, when you split a 6pack of beer with me." I was serious. He hasn't asked since. He was disrespecting me by badgering me about it. I don't think I disrespected him with the suggestion.
1/17/2012 9:55:56 PM
Originally Posted By coolstuff:
I am not LDS, but most of the people that I know are. A friend of mine was particularly annoying in trying to get me to go to church. I finnaly put it this way.
"I will go to your church, when you split a 6pack of beer with me." I was serious. He hasn't asked since. He was disrespecting me by badgering me about it. I don't think I disrespected him with the suggestion.
I am not LDS, but most of the people that I know are. A friend of mine was particularly annoying in trying to get me to go to church. I finnaly put it this way.
"I will go to your church, when you split a 6pack of beer with me." I was serious. He hasn't asked since. He was disrespecting me by badgering me about it. I don't think I disrespected him with the suggestion.
Careful, you might find one that will take you up on that offer. You know why they say you have to take two to go fishing right?
1/17/2012 10:07:58 PM
Originally Posted By cmjohnson:
Make an appointment to speak directly with the bishop of the local temple himself. Or speak to him directly on the phone,
and make your wishes extremely clear but of course in a polite and respectful manner.
I'm sure you will then be left alone.
CJ
Make an appointment to speak directly with the bishop of the local temple himself. Or speak to him directly on the phone,
and make your wishes extremely clear but of course in a polite and respectful manner.
I'm sure you will then be left alone.
CJ
I shall do this.
1/17/2012 10:15:24 PM
Originally Posted By The_Camp_Ninja:
I shall do this.
The Temple President has no authority over the local wards and stakes. The Bishop and Stake President are the ones who's responsible. See my suggestion if you want this posthaste.Originally Posted By cmjohnson:
Make an appointment to speak directly with the bishop of the local temple himself. Or speak to him directly on the phone,
and make your wishes extremely clear but of course in a polite and respectful manner.
I'm sure you will then be left alone.
CJ
Make an appointment to speak directly with the bishop of the local temple himself. Or speak to him directly on the phone,
and make your wishes extremely clear but of course in a polite and respectful manner.
I'm sure you will then be left alone.
CJ
I shall do this.
1/17/2012 10:26:35 PM
But, the local bishop will see to it that the request is heard by the right people.
My oldest brother is a bishop and I've asked him this very question before. He said that's how he handles that particular issue.
CJ
My oldest brother is a bishop and I've asked him this very question before. He said that's how he handles that particular issue.
CJ
1/17/2012 10:29:32 PM
Originally Posted By cmjohnson:
But, the local bishop will see to it that the request is heard by the right people.
My oldest brother is a bishop and I've asked him this very question before. He said that's how he handles that particular issue.
CJ
But, the local bishop will see to it that the request is heard by the right people.
My oldest brother is a bishop and I've asked him this very question before. He said that's how he handles that particular issue.
CJ
We're splitting hairs but the tithing envelope has the Bishop's address. The second address is Church Headquarters. Let's just say I know my way around that building very well.
It saddens me to see this type of request but I have to respect it. There are too many molly mormons / peter priesthoods that think they know better instead of respecting other's wishes.
1/18/2012 2:00:45 AM
OP: The advice about talking to the bishop is good. Do realize that there is still a chance that the missionaries will unknowingly knock on your door when canvassing through a neighborhood. As a missionary, we tried to keep track of the addresses of those former members who didn't want to see us, and generally avoided going to their house. We're really not trying to antagonize these people. However, missionaries cycle through different areas, and the information may be lost.
After a while, most likely no one in the area will know that you were every baptized LDS. When the missionaries knock on your door, you can choose your response. Some missionaries are more persistent than others. I generally tried to spend my time where it seemed most fruitful, and badgering someone who doesn't want to talk to us is a waste of everyone's time.
1/18/2012 3:22:53 AM
Originally Posted By sterling18:
Careful, you might find one that will take you up on that offer. You know why they say you have to take two to go fishing right?
Originally Posted By coolstuff:
I am not LDS, but most of the people that I know are. A friend of mine was particularly annoying in trying to get me to go to church. I finnaly put it this way.
"I will go to your church, when you split a 6pack of beer with me." I was serious. He hasn't asked since. He was disrespecting me by badgering me about it. I don't think I disrespected him with the suggestion.
I am not LDS, but most of the people that I know are. A friend of mine was particularly annoying in trying to get me to go to church. I finnaly put it this way.
"I will go to your church, when you split a 6pack of beer with me." I was serious. He hasn't asked since. He was disrespecting me by badgering me about it. I don't think I disrespected him with the suggestion.
Careful, you might find one that will take you up on that offer. You know why they say you have to take two to go fishing right?
If he is willing to experience new things with an open mind, then I am too.
1/18/2012 3:28:34 AM
OP,
After speaking with the head of the local church, you could try putting a NO SOLICITORS sign by your door, and when you see the missionaries in the neighborhood, just don't answer the door. You're not being disrespctful for not answering the door if you don't want to.
After speaking with the head of the local church, you could try putting a NO SOLICITORS sign by your door, and when you see the missionaries in the neighborhood, just don't answer the door. You're not being disrespctful for not answering the door if you don't want to.
1/18/2012 6:12:49 PM
Moat and alligators? OK I will be serious, I have a similar problem, I had Christian friends trying to become one, I was polite and explained I am Jewish and that is that. I lost friends, but the ones that accepted me were real friends. Go talk to the bishop,
1/20/2012 9:36:42 PM
If you absolutely don't want to be contacted (except at random as has been stated above), you'll have to have your name removed from the records of the church. As a member, your ward leaders have a responsibility to contact you. A letter or a visit to the Bishop should get the ball rolling.
1/20/2012 10:45:40 PM
Yes. Your ward leadership has a responsibility and an obligation to contact you if you are on the registry of the church. If they are responsible and actually believe in what they do they WILL contact you. They can do nothing about NOT contacting you until your name is off the membership. If this is your true desire then you must do this.
You must ask to be removed from the rolls of the membership in order to get them to stop.
You may still get an accidental 'drive by' by missionaries out canvasing. It happens. Deal with it politely. Avoiding the issue or being nasty does you a disservice and is not good relations. If you have your name taken off the membership and they persist you can be firmer in your responses. They are polite- you be polite. It will go a long way in dealing with them.
Incidentally, how do you handle 7th Day Adventists or Jehovah Witnesses? Are you rude to them ?
You must ask to be removed from the rolls of the membership in order to get them to stop.
You may still get an accidental 'drive by' by missionaries out canvasing. It happens. Deal with it politely. Avoiding the issue or being nasty does you a disservice and is not good relations. If you have your name taken off the membership and they persist you can be firmer in your responses. They are polite- you be polite. It will go a long way in dealing with them.
Incidentally, how do you handle 7th Day Adventists or Jehovah Witnesses? Are you rude to them ?
1/20/2012 10:58:13 PM
Originally Posted By GoatHerder:
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Incidentally, how do you handle 7th Day Adventists or Jehovah Witnesses? Are you rude to them ?
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Incidentally, how do you handle 7th Day Adventists or Jehovah Witnesses? Are you rude to them ?
I always offer to trade them a Book of Mormon for their latest Watchtower. They have NEVER taken me up on it, or even touched the book. They've left immediately.
And I am serious in my offer.
1/20/2012 11:04:53 PM
Originally Posted By GoatHerder:
Yes. Your ward leadership has a responsibility and an obligation to contact you if you are on the registry of the church. If they are responsible and actually believe in what they do they WILL contact you. They can do nothing about NOT contacting you until your name is off the membership. If this is your true desire then you must do this.
You must ask to be removed from the rolls of the membership in order to get them to stop.
You may still get an accidental 'drive by' by missionaries out canvasing. It happens. Deal with it politely. Avoiding the issue or being nasty does you a disservice and is not good relations. If you have your name taken off the membership and they persist you can be firmer in your responses. They are polite- you be polite. It will go a long way in dealing with them.
Incidentally, how do you handle 7th Day Adventists or Jehovah Witnesses? Are you rude to them ?
Yes. Your ward leadership has a responsibility and an obligation to contact you if you are on the registry of the church. If they are responsible and actually believe in what they do they WILL contact you. They can do nothing about NOT contacting you until your name is off the membership. If this is your true desire then you must do this.
You must ask to be removed from the rolls of the membership in order to get them to stop.
You may still get an accidental 'drive by' by missionaries out canvasing. It happens. Deal with it politely. Avoiding the issue or being nasty does you a disservice and is not good relations. If you have your name taken off the membership and they persist you can be firmer in your responses. They are polite- you be polite. It will go a long way in dealing with them.
Incidentally, how do you handle 7th Day Adventists or Jehovah Witnesses? Are you rude to them ?
Not in the slightest. So nice, in fact, that in the past they have fent I wanted more visits, I don't. Being rude to these folks ain't in me. Now, the white van driving young criminals outta Florida what sell chemical and magazines, them, I've produced a weapon towards to make the go away.
1/21/2012 1:30:41 AM
To get your name removed from the records of the church must be done in writing. Sterling18 is correct. Follow his two letters with one to SLC and the other to your local Bishop. Do you need help finding the local Bishop? I can get that if you need it.
1/22/2012 1:28:57 AM
Originally Posted By The_Camp_Ninja:
Not in the slightest. So nice, in fact, that in the past they have fent I wanted more visits, I don't. Being rude to these folks ain't in me. Now, the white van driving young criminals outta Florida what sell chemical and magazines, them, I've produced a weapon towards to make the go away.
Originally Posted By GoatHerder:
Yes. Your ward leadership has a responsibility and an obligation to contact you if you are on the registry of the church. If they are responsible and actually believe in what they do they WILL contact you. They can do nothing about NOT contacting you until your name is off the membership. If this is your true desire then you must do this.
You must ask to be removed from the rolls of the membership in order to get them to stop.
You may still get an accidental 'drive by' by missionaries out canvasing. It happens. Deal with it politely. Avoiding the issue or being nasty does you a disservice and is not good relations. If you have your name taken off the membership and they persist you can be firmer in your responses. They are polite- you be polite. It will go a long way in dealing with them.
Incidentally, how do you handle 7th Day Adventists or Jehovah Witnesses? Are you rude to them ?
Yes. Your ward leadership has a responsibility and an obligation to contact you if you are on the registry of the church. If they are responsible and actually believe in what they do they WILL contact you. They can do nothing about NOT contacting you until your name is off the membership. If this is your true desire then you must do this.
You must ask to be removed from the rolls of the membership in order to get them to stop.
You may still get an accidental 'drive by' by missionaries out canvasing. It happens. Deal with it politely. Avoiding the issue or being nasty does you a disservice and is not good relations. If you have your name taken off the membership and they persist you can be firmer in your responses. They are polite- you be polite. It will go a long way in dealing with them.
Incidentally, how do you handle 7th Day Adventists or Jehovah Witnesses? Are you rude to them ?
Not in the slightest. So nice, in fact, that in the past they have fent I wanted more visits, I don't. Being rude to these folks ain't in me. Now, the white van driving young criminals outta Florida what sell chemical and magazines, them, I've produced a weapon towards to make the go away.
They bother me too...inner city youths (obviously) being driven around in groups to get money to go somewhere hawking stuff I don't want. Then I never ever see them again. My spider senses tingle when they come by....I often chat with the JW people on what they believe and am polite. Usually I am working on blades and tools when they come by my House/shop. It is fun to see them shake my hand covered in gunk.
